How did we get engaged?
Well, we were supposed to go on a trip to Turks and Caicos in January, but then that trip got pushed back to March. No problem, right? We decided (well, I may have hinted) that would be a beautiful picturesque place to get engaged! So, Mark put the plans in motion to get my custom-designed ring ready in time. It was supposed to be completed in early March.
But then, lo and behold, on Valentine’s Day of all days, Jennifer our jeweler called Mark to tell him that the ring was ready! Funnier still, he wasn’t even supposed to be in town on Valentine’s Day, as he was on a guy’s trip to Colorado. But he had missed us girls so much that he came home a day early.
So, since he was in town, he told me he was going to go by Golden Thread to check on the ring, make sure it looked right, etc. Knowing that the ring was ready sure made it feel more real, but I still didn’t think anything about it – as we were set to get engaged on our family trip to Turks and Caicos in March, right?
Well, so if you’ll recall, Valentine’s Day was on a Friday this year. And being that Mark wasn’t even supposed to be in town, we hadn’t made any plans (which was fine by me). When he came back a day early, I decided to pick up some takeout lasagna and such to at least celebrate a little bit at home. Other than that, it was a normal Friday night. As the night went on, I was doing my normal mom routine of feeding Elle, bathing Elle, etc.
He kept trying to get me to sit outside on the balcony with him. But I kept resisting for a myriad of normal reasons — I’m tired, I’m trying to get Elle ready for bed, blah blah blah. Finally, when I gave in, I quickly found myself in the middle of a proposal!
He got down on one knee, told me how once he had the ring that he couldn’t wait another day to move forward with our life together, how grateful he is for Elle and me, and all that good stuff.
WE SAID YES!
So, it was nothing fancy necessarily, but it was completely filled with heart and emotion and family. It was perfect.
And it was a total surprise that it happened that night! I was not expecting a Valentine’s Day proposal, nor was he planning a Valentine’s Day proposal.
This whole story fits us perfectly… Our engagement story is much like our relationship in that it is grounded in reality. We have a clear realistic view of life and relationships and family and all that. Certainly, we are excited and optimistic about our future! But I just feel like it’s beyond the “rose-colored glasses” stage that I would have been caught up in when I was younger.
I feel a deep-seated peace with this decision both for Elle and me. At this age and with a child, I have to be very practical about decisions I make because they affect not only me. I am thankful to God for bringing Mark into my life. He is the antithesis of me in many ways. We balance each other out in many ways. And we drive each other crazy in many ways – just kidding, kind of. But, at the end of the day, I know that most importantly he’s a man of character who loves God and loves both of us deeply. And I am so grateful for that.